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Rilo Kiley A Man/Me/Then Jim Lyrics

Last updated: 08/31/2012 08:33:14 PM

I had one friend in high school recently he hung himself with string
His note said
"If livin' is the problem, well that's just baffling."
And at the wake I waited around to see my ex first love
And I barely recognized her, but I knew exactly what she was thinking of
We sat quietly in the corner whispering close about loss
And I remembered why I loved her, and I asked her why I drove her off

She said
The slow fade of love
Its soft edge might cut you
And our poor friend, Jim
Well he just lived within
The slow fade of love

A woman calls my house once a week; she's always selling things
Some charity, a phone plan, a subscription to a magazine
And as I turned her down, I always do, there was something trembling in her voice
I said
Hey, what troubles you?
She said
I'm surprised you noticed
Well, my husband, he's leaving, and I can't convince him to stay
And he'll take our daughter with him, she wants to go with him anyway
I'm sorry I'm hard to live with, living is the problem for me
I'm selling people things they don't want when I don't know what you need

He said the slow fade of love
And its mist might choke you
It's my gradual descent
Into a life I never meant
It's the slow fade of love

I was driving south of Melrose; I happened upon my old lover's old house
I found myself staring at the closed up door like the day she threw me out
"Dianna, Dianna, Dianna I would die for you
I'm in love with you completely, I'm afraid that's all I can do"
She said
"You can sleep upon my doorstep, you can promise me indifference, Jim
But my mind is made up, and I'll never let you in again"

For the slow fade of love
It might hit you from below
It's your gradual descent
Into a life you never meant
It's the slow fade of love

Thanks to Heather for submitting A Man/Me/Then Jim Lyrics.

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Then Jim | Reviewer: Yes please | 8/31/12

I believe "then Jim" refers to Jim before he passed, as opposed to "now Jim" who has indeed passed. But its also a very clever play on words in stating who the 3 "speakers" are in the song.

Jim's suicide note says he's baffled by the statement that "living is the problem" which are words spoken by the lady with the issues in the second verse, presumably his wife. Beautiful.

the title is the answer | Reviewer: sandpaperdoll | 3/4/11

To morick from 2/25/11:

"A Man, Me, Then Jim" refers to the different points of view of the three verses, I'm pretty sure. The first verse is told by "a man," talking about running into his old lover at their mutual friend Jim's funeral. The second verse is told by "me," i.e. Jenny Lewis (the singer/songwriter). Then the third verse is told from the point of view of Jim, before he killed himself, remembering his old girlfriend and how they were pulled apart by "the slow fade of love," which the first verse said was ultimately what killed Jim.

wow | Reviewer: morick | 2/25/11

when i first heard the melody i doubted that the lyrics could match its beauty but the words of the chorus are just gorgeous. they are clear and understandable despite being so sad. i am confused though.. 'jim' was the guy who killed himself.. who is the 'jim' or where does he fit from the last verse? this song is just amazing. soft and deep

simply incredible. | Reviewer: Anonymous | 10/28/07

so sad. just reading the lyrics ((you should see how teary i got when i first really listened to the lyrics)) makes me so sad. especially the part about the telemarketer. beautiful. rilo kiley is so amazing, the way they don't talk about love, but how messy it is, when there's divorce and another woman and custody battles. it's remarkable.