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Bright Eyes Lover I Don't Have To Love Lyrics

Last updated: 09/24/2012 04:24:40 PM

I picked you out
Of a crowd and talked to you
Said I liked your shoes
You said thanks can I follow you?
So it's up the stairs
And out of view
No prying eyes
I poured some wine
I asked your name you asked the time
Now it's two o'clock,
the club is closed we're up the block
Your hands on me
I'm pressing hard against your jeans
Your tongue in my mouth
Trying to keep the words from coming out
You didn't care to know
Who else may have been you before
I want a lover I don't have to love
I want a girl who's too sad to give a fuck
Where's the kid with the chemicals?
I thought he said to meet me here but I'm not sure
I got the money if you got the time
You said it feels good I said I'll give it a try
Then my mind went dark
We both forgot where your car was parked
Let's just take the train
I'll meet up with the band in the morning
Bad actors with bad habits
Some sad singers
They just play tragic
And the phone's ringing
And the van's leaving
Let's just keep touching
Let's just keep keep singing
I want a lover I don't have to love
I want a boy who's so drunk he doesn't talk
Where's the kid with the chemicals
I got a hunger and I can't seem to get full
I need some meaning I can memorize
The kind I have always seems to slip my mind
But you but you
You write such pretty words
But life's no story book
Love's an excuse to get hurt
And to hurt
"Do you like to hurt?"
"I do! I do!"
"Then hurt me." [fades]

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lol you guys taking this way deeper than it is | Reviewer: Rmata | 9/24/12

The guy picked up a hooker at a club and took her home. He said "i got the money if you got the time"
Chemical imbalance doesn't mean anything other than the drugs they are taking

Love | Reviewer: JillBellig | 4/8/12

To me this song is about trying to forget love not a person but love itself trying to find a get away from it. A girl who's to sad to give a fuck is basically a girl like him someone who doesn't really want to get emotionally attached to someone. A boy so drunk he doesn't talk is basically to not get asked questions or let emotions get in the way neither of then want love. The kid with the chemicals is another get away from emotions from reality and a hunger I can't seem get to full is the emptiness inside him.
But in the end they want love they want a meaning in things though both of them are hurting though both of them are broken they want love and caring and the warm of a person.
It's not a shallow song at all it actually has a great meaning we all need love.

Finally | Reviewer: Spiff | 11/26/11

Finally I found people discussing the sondg more the way I would do it. The most explanations i read bevore just saw it the sexual way, what pissed me of a little bit. I think this song is a lot more than just a hymn for Sex without feelings . Well I think that the first lyrics "I picked[...]the time" are actually initialising that kind of thoughts, but even though the two people are fooling around there is a need for "the kid with the chemicals" to get the whole thing going on. And isn´t it a little bit a word play with the "girl who's too sad to give a fuck" , couldn´t it mean two things ? Like the first opportunity : A girl that does not care because she´s sad and also a gilr that s not able to have (pleasuring) sex because she´s too sad?
After the main acting Persons "mind went dark " maybe cause of the drugs they have done and they both forgot "where the car was parked", they both are just "bad actors with bad habits" , feeling ashamed or uncomfartable because of what happend between them. The " sad singers
They just play tragic" might stand for those musicians that are using their songs for *** as much groupies they can without even thinking about it? And I think there is a dialougestarting after "Let's just keep keep singing" . the following verse should be the point of view of the girl in it. She is excusing her behaviour with "it was the Kid with the[...] " (Thats the lyrics I learnded to know) . So it´s like as if she would say " it´s not my fault, I did drugs that´s what made me do it" .
And maybe she´s thinking, that she want´s "a boy who's so drunk he doesn't talk" because her one night stand started talking to her:"I got a hunger and I can't seem to get full
I need some meaning I can memorize
The kind I have always seems to slip my mind" And actually is giving her Information she did not exept from her "Star" he´s feeling meenigless. She is surprised: "But you but you
You write such pretty words"
And his answer just is "But life's no story book
Love's an excuse to get hurt
And to hurt " and the dialogue goes on . till she ´s saying that if he likes to hurt ( both meanings again , like feeling pain and to hurt other people) he should hurt her . Isn´t she refering to his words that love is to hurt people and to get hurt by people , and so isn´t she actually asking him to love her with the words "hurt me", not only in a physically way ? just wondered...

"wheres the kid with the chemicals" | Reviewer: adam | 10/22/11

ive always thought of "the kid with the chemicals" being a girl with a chemical imbalance (depression) because he talks about looking for a girl whos too sad to give a fuck. i know the following lines point towards "the kid with the chemicals" being a drug dealer...but still idk, i still feel like its someone with a chemical imbalance or something

well | Reviewer: Samoan840 | 3/18/11

In my humble opinion, its about being a musician, and picking up lovers at shows. lovers, that he doesnt have to love. wine and sex in the vip at a club. the chick doesnt want to know about other girls hes picked up. he looks for sad people, as sad as he is. chorus. possibly a new lover here. then hes trying to buy some drugs (kid with chemicals) but theres some sort of mix up, drugs he hasnt done. they get lost after a party with actors and such, take a bus, he plans to catch up with the band before they have to leave for another show. seems like a fairly clear song to me. depressed people seek out depression.

Heartbroken... | Reviewer: Rain | 2/25/11

He was so heartbroken when he wrote this. If you've never had your heart ripped out and your trust crushed by someone you love you won't get this song. It's that limbo period when you've accepted they're gone and you've decided you'll never love again. Your empty & hollow. You've hurt so much that you can't hurt anymore and you fill the void with drugs & sex with people you don't care about it. It especially rings true in Hollywood. You have your soul ripped apart in Hollywood so many times you stop caring about anyone else. You stumble around like a Zombie for a while looking for the next fix of drugs or sex, but if you came to LA you're probably a sensitive artist and you could never live or create without the extreme emotions of love and heartache. Everyone in this scene loves to hurt each's an excuse to do drugs and make great art.

like it. | Reviewer: Getty | 10/26/10

i think connor is probly deep for personal reasons and it makes you wonder why he is the way he is. like religion, you are a cathlic if your parents brought you up that way, you didnt just pop out saying "thank god im out of that place."
theres some explaination for singing just lyrics to do with drunks and other things like that , school issues as a kid, parents issues, branched family issues, anything, but id be interested to know.

Too sad to give a fuck | Reviewer: Anonymous | 10/10/10

He doesn't want talking or rehashing the past. No soul searching or probing. Just someone to pass the time with. Someone who understands what it is like to be too emotionally dead to bring up the hurtful stuff or get too involved... because love turned sour is the most painful feeling. This song is just... perfect.

* | Reviewer: Erica | 10/9/10

I always saw it as kind of a satire of the whole young bar culture nowadays.. you know - getting drunk, taking drugs, meeting someone you have no emotional connection with.. might not even know their name.. and having sex with them.. being too emotionally void due to either the substance abuse, past hurt, or desensitization to feelings due to our culture in general to feel real love.. it is sad..

to me it seems. | Reviewer: mattptd | 8/5/10

hes opening up.
he wants someone who can look past mistakes and flaws, and willing to deal with the fact that shit happens. but he is also willing to do whatever it takes for approval even if it leads down a road of drugs and ignoring obligations. its just a sad searching for love kinda song.

The Kind I Have Always Seems To Slip My Mind | Reviewer: Adam | 4/15/10

One of my favorite BE songs, and by far one of the best lyrically beaten out perhaps only narrowly by waste of paint, sunrise sunset, and maybe we are nowhere and its now, but that aside, this is a song about just being so sad and so emotionally torn up over most likely a very recent breakup or at least a breakup with someone whom you truly felt in love with in a magically sort or way, and the falling out to the complete opposite of the emotional spectrum to becoming sort of a shell of a person just walking through parties, taking hard drugs, and looking for fleeting one night stands that won't hurt you like you've been hurt before. It applies to girls or boys and it is the kind of song we can all relate to. If you are over the age of 16-17 I'm sure you have had your heart broken or felt a true saddness over rejection by someone of the opposite sex, and if you are in your 20's like me I'm sure you've had someone in your life you truly thought was the one for some time and it didn't work out and afterwards you are just crushed. Conor isn't talking about date rape or something sketchy like that, if you take lyrics at the superficial surface level then that is all you will ever get back, what he is really talking about here is the true nature of what love is and how it is processed by human beings. We all are always partaking in the game that is relationships and searching for our true love somewhere out there, but at the sametime by doing that we open ourselves up to a world of hurt and pain. If you want to find true love you have to be willing to be hurt just as awfully as you would inversely like to be loved. Do you like to hurt? I do.

the girl who's too sad to give a fuck. | Reviewer: courtney | 2/13/10

"I want a boy who's so drunk he doesn't talk" refers to the other person partaking in this joint pain's feelings towards what they're doing, the girl who is too sad to give a fuck. He wants a girl who's too sad to give a fuck and she wants a boy who is so drunk he does not talk. This song is not shallow in the slightest. It could only be shallow if your thought pattern is shallow.

Kyle | Reviewer: caitlin | 10/22/09

I always saw that line as just expressing the tendency he has to choose other people who are hurting as badly as him, needing any sort of acknowledgement they can get. The verses that follow sort of explain that point... "Said I liked your shoes, you said 'thanks, can I follow you'" She didn't want to give her name, didn't 'care to know who had been you before.' The song has such a desperate feeling. And I think the "I want a boy who's so drunk he doesn't talk" merely refers to his confusion and desperation

I have a couple questions... | Reviewer: Kyle Martin | 10/15/09

I don't think this line is shallow, but I am confused at when he says that " I picked you out of a crowd" is he talking about because he is famous he can just pick anyone? and when he says "I want a boy who's so drunk he doesn't talk", is he bi? or what is he talking about???

To Veritable Goddess | Reviewer: Livy | 8/30/09

Date rape? Are you serious? Have you read or watch an interviews with Connor? I don't think he wants to hook up or rape any of his fans. & I think every Connor write is very original. He has a voice & sound that can carry over an genre of music. & That's what makes him a great musician. & His lyrics are great. Deep, meaningful. I don't think he's the type to write about raping people.