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Earl Thomas Conley Holding Her and Loving You Lyrics

Last updated: 05/16/2013 07:13:33 PM

It's the third hardest thing I'll ever do
leavin' here without you
and the second hardest thing I'll ever do
is tellin her about you
she's been good to me
when things were goin' rough
how can I tell her now, good ain't good enough
oh, the hardest thing I've ever had to do
is holding her, and loving you

if she'd give me one good reason I'd be gone
she ain't done, one thing wrong
so don't expect me to just walk out of the door
I still love her, but I love you more
she's been good to me

when things weren't goin' right
she made my days long before you made my nights
so, the hardest thing I've ever had to do
is holding her, and loving you

yeah, the hardest thing I'll ever have to do
is holding her, and loving you
girl, the hardest thing I'll ever have to do
is holding her, and loving you

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people hear song differently. | Reviewer: casey | 5/16/13

I picture a man standing over the grave of his wife that passed away some time ago.

This makes the song a very sad and deeply moving song to me.

Thats just how I have always pictured it when I have heard this song.

Disgusting | Reviewer: Anonymous | 5/3/13

As a woman who has been cheated on...this song grosses me out in the worst way. I understand that as adults, things happen, emotions don't always go the way we want them to. The thing about this song is that he's whining about HIS emotional distress. It's sooooo haaaaard to lead that double life. Well, screw you and your tiny baby emotions. You're the one causing the trouble. How do you think your wife would feel if she found out? For that matter, she probably senses something is amiss, so what do you think that does to her? And the mistress? Sure, she's at some fault...but seriously the two women in this scenario are the ones who deserve the emotional release. Then, they deserve the chance to punch that man in the throat. Or elsewhere, if it suits them. Listen, I get complicated relationships, I do...but don't glorify it with a sappy song wherein you whine about how hard it is to hurt other people. Gross, gross, gross.

Used her like I've used any other women | Reviewer: prinkylovesbasilme | 10/10/12

I was physically involved with a married co-worker although I myself was in a six years relationship with someone else. I was 10 years her senior I deceived her in believing that the love was mutual. From my part, it wasn't. I was simply an opportunist and a narcissistic so when the opportunity presented itself, I took it. It went on close to a year when I noticed she began to become emotionally involved, I played mind game with her by initiating dates with her but repeatedly cancelled on her. I didn't call when I say I'd call and I purposely flirted and checked out other female in sight whenever I was with her. I took phone calls and check my 6 years live-in girlfriend's messages while I was with her. Toward the end, I stood her up yet once more using all the bullshit that I can pull out as excuses. I thought she was stupid enough to continue buying my bullshits, but she was very hurtful and told me so. I figured that was a good opportunity to pull out the dumped bomb on her. I told her that she is selfish for not understanding my excuses and that she acted resentful so I told her "I couldn't be more and hope we could still be friend". This was my way of trying to let her down easy since I already have had my fun and dropping her this way will relief me from all responsibilities. Lets face it I have always been a coward and will always be. I have been married and divorced. I have had lived-in girlfriends and involved with countless women, all for the temporary gratification of being with another human being. I didn't want to be tied down nor I ever will be. The women I currently live with, I never intended to marry her but she wants marriage and her and like the others before her. I wanted to break off with her after our first year together, but she cried her eyes out each time I wanted a break up and begged me to take her back. Maybe if she is good I will do her the favor and marry her someday when I am all out done with fooling around with women's heart. I am jaded and don't really care if I grow old and die alone someday because I would just drive myself off the clip and check out that way. I have a few guy friends who applaud the idea and contemplate joining me on our final escapade. Anyway, now, six months after dumping my married play toy and having HER shut me off with no further contact, I decided to play with her emotion a little more. I sent her a senseless, meaningless, pretentious breadcrumb email. I was hoping she'd be stupid enough to bite the bate, but she responded with indifference. I didn't like that. I mean, how dare she ignored me. I want the attention because now that am finished with other serious business and keeping my live-in girlfriend at bay, I am bored and needed a little entertainment so I cast my bate to this girl see if she'll bite it again. Damn, my dead parents would have been so proud!! And my dad was an Army guy. He would have been so proud to know that his 47 yo son accomplished so much and such a good player. This song reminds me of my narcissistic self.

so sad | Reviewer: Anonymous | 9/29/11

I just broke up with my long term partner because I realised I haven't been happy the last 4 years, I was and am still not over my first love, the father of my child. I don't think I'll ever be so I thought it was the only thing I could do was to let my now ex go and find someone who makes him happy and also who is happy with him. I was fooling myself when I thought I was over him. The sad thing is, The man I'm not over is now married and has another child. He doesn't see his child with me so I guess it makes everything that much more heartbreaking.

Wondering | Reviewer: anne | 4/21/11

I love the song, but at the same time makes me sad when I hear it. I have been with my husband for 29 yrs, but wonder if he ever thinks about his ex when he is with me. This is why this song touches my heart and always makes me feel like crying.

Cut the strings | Reviewer: Anonymous | 2/13/11

I had this happen to me. I was in a relationship from Hell and I had decided that as a 2nd marriage I would endure anything so as to not fail at it again. He eventually left because he couldn't handle my medical condition that he was well aware of BEFORE we got married. So he cheated and you could tell his heart just wasn't in our relationship. The BEST Thing he could have done was leave!! If you find yourself in a similar situation, let her (or him) go. You think they don't know something is amiss? I praise God for him letting me go every day because now I know what true love is and I no longer have to live with the bi polar roller coaster of his emotions of being in or out of our commitment. My ex didn't have to make such a dramatic break (I had to get a restraining order against him). It's a beautiful song, but please don't hold that person back who doesn't deserve that treatment while you are sleeping around with someone else. The first time I heard this song was about a year after that marriage ended. It hurt to hear this song. It has since been almost 8 years with my new husband and we never fight, we always laugh.....this is what love should feel like!

So Tru | Reviewer: Anonymous | 3/9/10

I have been married to the same woman for 39years. Last two years have been in a relationship with someonelse. But I can't leave my wife of 39years because she is so good to me.The song fits me perfect.

my first love | Reviewer: Anonymous | 9/12/09

I can say the same about my first love I waited for him all my life now here we r 30 yrs later he's been thru many relationships n is now single I'm in my 2nd relationship n caught up with him finally when I was separated from my 2nd and I let me first love know I had loved him all my life since we were teenagers he just never knew my feelings for him well now I'm back in my 2nd realtionship but I still want my first love he understands I'm in a relationship with children but we can't help but dream of being together one day deep down inside I really think it'll happen its never too late as long as we're alive I'm not giving up hope never
So I know how it feels to hold one person and love another....

It says it all | Reviewer: Anonymous | 9/15/08

I had someone who told me to look the song up and read the lyrics and I would understand. WOW! There isn't anything else I can say but that. These lyrics have come to have a very special meaning to me ever since that first time. hrh

will the hurt ever end | Reviewer: rc | 7/23/08

i love her with all my heart and i believe i always will. she is married to another. i have moved on and let her go but there is not a day that goes by that i do not think of her. my new love is great i could not ask for more but i will never feel complete like i did before.

I know what it's like Earl, | Reviewer: Chelle | 3/15/08

And it is one of the hardest things I have to do. I still love my ex, but the guy I'm with now loves me and he's good to me. And like in his lyrics, if he gave me one good reason I'd be gone. But he doesn't, and he probably never will. Kinda sad to think if I ever leave him, he'll probably relate with this song by missing me while with someone else. It's one strange world, isn't it?

anonymous | Reviewer: Anonymous | 3/15/08

this song is so right for me. i have been with "her" for three years and we have had our ups and downs. she has not done anything to terribly wrong.but there is just something missing. im still young and can not decide what to do. i do not want to break her heart, but sometimes i feel staying is going to hurt her worse. i feel strongly for another person, but do not want to take it to the next level. i guess love will take its course in the end

Amazing... just like him | Reviewer: Anonymous | 10/8/07

I've met the love of my life... and he's married. He said this song explains his love life perfectly. It's so sad... but so wonderful at the same time. Reality is a pain in the ass. He's an amazing man... and if nothing comes of us, then I hope he can find the happiness he deserves. Letting go is one of the hardest things to do, but I know it'll all work out one way or another in the end. I love him like I have never loved ANYONE. My love for him is the strongest thing I've ever felt in my life. I feel like I need him in some way... and letting go is the only responsible and rational option I have. It's just so hard......

Greatest song in the world! | Reviewer: Anonymous | 9/29/07

I can't listen to this song without crying. It reminds me of the love of my life, who was married and brought the song to my attention. It's been 20 years and I'm still not over him

Explains my life | Reviewer: amber | 6/26/07

I'm in a serious relationship and i love my partner with all my heart. But there are things not so good with our life together. Sometimes it is great but alot of times there is something missing and we base how good our day was on how many arguements we had or how mad we made each other.
This song fits my life so well that it's sad. I love my partner so much but at the same time the love i have for someone else is so strong i cant help but want him and need him. It hurts to think about him knowing that the person i am laying next to and spending my days with is not him....