Burt Bacharach Lyrics

    ------ About the song Wives and Lovers performed by Burt Bacharach

Ladies, there is nothing wrong with keeping yourself looking good for your spouse, and putting forth effort to be romantic and spoil your man...as long as it goes both ways. This song is absolutely chauvenistic! 1) He demeans women by calling us" little girl". 2) He suggests that men don't have enough control over their sexual drives to keep themselves from running out on you should you dare to send him to work with your hair in curlers. 3) Not only do men not have control over their desires, but they would be in the right to leave you with nary a word if they didn't like how you looked in the morning! Cuz after all "Men will always be men" and we ladies have nothing more to offer than our bodies, right? Disgusting piece of trash, this song is, and anyone who doesn't get that is an absolute moron!

    ------ About the song Wives and Lovers performed by Burt Bacharach

I am a 27 year old female and i heard this song on the radio while my fiance's mum was listening. I thought it was a wonderful piece of advice. relationships take work and I know too many girls my age and older who don't put in this type of effort then complain when they get treated the same. I put in effort and i can see the results. If you are putting it out there that you adore your partner they will appreciate it and show it back. If you put in the effort and they don't show it back, that's when you should start complaining. but many of the people in my generation think they should get service on a plate for doing nothing in a relationship simply because they are female. *That* is sexism.

    ------ About the song Wives and Lovers performed by Burt Bacharach

Christina and the writer of Wife and Lover are correct. People (of both genders) many times are quick to stop trying after some time in a marriage, which isn't good for anyone.

If a woman wants a happy, satisfying marriage, she has to put some effort into the little things. She'll usually find that the effort is appreciated and matched by the man in other ways. Unfortunately, men are more reactive than women (this is a compliment, ladies), so don't hold your breath waiting for him to begin. Shouldn't be that way but it is.

    ------ About the song Wives and Lovers performed by Burt Bacharach

I've been adding this tune to my repertoire, because it jazzes up nice and a jazz waltz is good to play at a gig to change things up a bit. But the lyrics are, as people point out, a bit dated. I liked the idea above of adding a verse for a man to sing, so here's my contribution. Apologies to Mr. David. --BF

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Hey, great big guy,
With your head up your buttocks,
Soon she might walk out that door!
Don't think because
You put a ring on her finger,
You needn't try any more

Real men should always be lovers, too.
Make sure she knows she's the only one for you
I'm warning you.

Day after day,
There are guys at her office,
And men will always be men.
Tell her she's hot
When her hair's still in curlers.
Or you may not see her again.

Real men should always be lovers, too.
Make sure she knows she's the only one for you.
Or she might go ...

Hey, great big guy,
Better tell her she's pretty,
Sit down, rub her feet, after a stroll in the city
And dim all the lights,
Pour the wine, start the music.
Time to get ready for love.

Dim all the lights,
Pour the wine,start the music.
Time to get ready for love.
Time to get ready,time to get ready for love.
Time to get ready,time to get ready for love.

    ------ About the song Wives and Lovers performed by Burt Bacharach

I LOVE this song, melody and words. I am 50 years old this month and Female. My husband and I have been married 32 years and walk around holding hands. I'm here to say we as women have alot of power over our men and I intend to keep it that way. Not take advantage of him or manipulate him with favors but to please and BE PLEASED by him. I work just as many hours as he does, we run a hardware store/garden center. He does the books I run the garden center (hard work) and yes I get cleaned up and spray a little perfume on, so what, I havent seen him all day. And by the way he does the same for me HE PUTS ON COLOGNE and tidies himself up to look nice for me. He helps me with the house chores. I cook dinner he washes dishes. After working 12 to 14 hour days, 6 days aweek, we are really tired and we still love seeing each other at the end of the day. OLD FASHIONED? ABSOLUTELY!!! BUT WE BOTH LOVE TAKING CARE OF OURSELVES. And we do it to keep that spark. Yes there has been a few days we havent spiffed ourselves up but its probably because we're doing housework and yard work all day. Anyway SOMEWHAT REVISED we both get ready for each other, it's always been that way.....

    ------ About the song Wives and Lovers performed by Burt Bacharach

There was a conversation at the office today about old chauvinistic songs. This one came to mind for me as I am now 57 years old and remember when it was current. I was just a kid at that time. I was a "housewife" for many years and after cleaning and cooking all day and trying to be the best mother and wife I knew how to be I did not always look attractive when my husband arrived home. When we we went out to any social occasions or had guests I always looked my best. I was never over weight or terribly unkept in any way. As i said I am currently 57 years old - divorced for 10 years (I initiated the divorce) and have for the past ten years looked better than I ever did. This song has got to be the absolute worst! As even a guy put it, it is absolutely horrible. What a lot of damage this putrid song did to so many women at the time. It was about sex and control - it had nothing to do with love. I don't know if Burt Bacharach is still alive but if he is, he should be ashamed. It's disgusting. If anyone disagrees with me, you are an idiot. I don't give a damn about the melody - it sent a terrible message.

    ------ About the song Wives and Lovers performed by Burt Bacharach

The usual way of things when the song was written was that the man went out to work & the woman stayed home.
Given that she probably had some time on her hands, it is a request from the songwriter for her to put down the caramels, stop watching Peyton Place & get changed out of the nasty house coat she lounged about in all day & into something a little more presentable.
Of course things have changed radically these day...haven't they?

    ------ About the song Nikki performed by Burt Bacharach

Nikki was written by Burt Bacharach and Hal David for Burt and Angie Dickenson's Daughter "Nikki" who was afflicted with Aspergers disease and as a result..committed suicide in January 2007 to end her own suffering.
The song Nikki was also used for ABC TV's Movie Of The Week audio theme for over a decade!

    ------ About the song Wives and Lovers performed by Burt Bacharach

I had forgotten some of the lyrics of this song until I looked them up. But, dear ladies, this song has always been like a 'bible' to me. I practiced it all the days of my marriage, and let me tell you, it works! My marriage ended on May 1 of last year when my husband died of the affects of Parkinsons. We had been very happily married for fifty-four and a half years. I always tried to look nice for him, someone for him to be proud of, even when there was no one else around. Don't think, girls, that I am June Cleaver. I'm a very independent, successful woman who has had at least two careers. But don't you want him to look forward to coming home to you? This is not a sexist song at all--just some excellent advice! I may be old enough to be your grandmother, but men's expectations haven't, nor will they ever change. They're wired that way. They'll always be attracted to a pretty woman. Make sure it's you!

    ------ About the song Wives and Lovers performed by Burt Bacharach

I'm 48 years old. Was driving home listening to Sirius Satellite radio... Seriously Sinatra station. This song came on. The melody jumped back in my head from listening to it as a little girl when my mom would have the stereo on. But today, listening to the lyrics on the way home, I almost got road rage! Pigs! Men! The way they thought back then. I've never been a Feminazi, but now I completely see the reason the women's movement came along! Someone, PLEASE redo this song. It has a great haunting melody. It should be done as a duet, leaving the original voice of the man in there... but with breaks for the women to pretty much tell the guy to get his meal himself. And by the way, pick up your own cleaning and laundry.... and yes... there may be girls at the office, but baby, there are some fine men out there in suits in our office! And just because he has a ring on HIS finger, doesn't mean that male chauvanist pig has to quit "trying" either. Too bad this song has such a great melody.... otherwise, it should be trashed!