Reviews for Daughters Lyrics

man, this is heavy. I've seen many girls I know have messed up dads, and it makes them have a skewed idea of love, which sucks. There are so many beautiful girls in the world and I hate it when they go for the idiot guys. Gosh! These guys don't respect you or anything. Life is hard, and as a college-age, unmarried guy that knows how important a father's impact is on his daughter is, I wanted to say that there are good guys out there for you girls. You may have to look a little harder, but don't settle for douche bag-guys. You deserve more. You deserve to be loved better. It starts with forgiving the fathers that aren't perfect. Then, real love can start forming in our hearts.

Justin

Every girls first masculine influence is their father. It's usually their only and strongest image of what a "man" is supposed to be. So they search for their fathers in their husbands. If you're a shitty father, your daughter is gonna search for a shitty husband. The mother part is just that women try to reenact their mothers always (playing house), and when in a relationship they adapt their mother's role.

I always liked the way this song sounded, when it talked about fathers and daughters I immediately thought about my experiences I've had to go through with my own father; and I loved the song even more:) such a great song!!

this song has never mad total sense to me but i am one of those people who have an odd relationship with my father so until now i had always thought that this song was sexist because it was saying that men could take the abuse but women couldn't i think that men should have an apropriate relationship with their father so they can grow up and be strong. Men shouldn't be abused for the same reasons and more if they are abused then they will become abusers so maybe somone should mention that

My ex girlfriend went through the worst of the worst with her father and mother. I took me a hundred times to take her out then even longer for her to want a boyfriend. She is an amazing woman and is one of the hardest working people around.

We went string and then all of sudden she was afraid of it. Afraid of the attachment. Afraid that something might happen that was far from possible and she is also a feminist at heart. She does not want to ever date, get into a relationship, get married or have children. It's sad to see it's real and I am afraid to even hit at the idea of that.

i never really understood the lyrics to this song until recently. my father leave when i was about 4. he visited my siblings and i until i turned 8 or 9, im 14 now. both of my siblings are boys and they are both older than me. my father usually isn't very reliable especially lately. and hes been very absent, always making promises that he'll come or do something for me and never does. i just started dating this guy but i don't know what to do or how to act. it always seem that he's just going to up and leave me and what i fear most is rejection. i use to be so attached to my dad and after he left it crushed me and i still feel the sting every now and then, and with dating, its hard. i dont want to get attached because im afraid that hes going to leave. i love this song because it speaks the truth and its very touching.

My situation is kind of the opposite cause of the woman's viewpoint in this song. I have had a father that has and will always be there for me and because of my father's strong love for me, I tend to shy away from relationships because I can't deal with rejection from a man because I have never in my life faced rejection from my father. I always look for a man that is as good as my father. I'm trying to learn that a man may not have all the characteristics of my father, but that doesn't mean he isn't a good man. It's my problems with men that I am gradually trying to overcome.

Oh my God! I didn't even realize what this song was saying until I listened to it randomly tonight... I have a shitty relationship with my dad... left before i was born.. my older sis and older bro don't have a relationship with him either anymore... he used to call them on their birthdays and never called me, not once... he has 2 other kids w/ some1 else and sees them all the time... I've been thinking about him a lot lately because i saw him for the first time in 7 years a few months ago because of a death in our family... I dunno... after listening to this song, i kinda think im afraid to have a real relationship with a guy because I don't wanna be abandoned... I really dunno...

Its true. For m whole life, I had an abusive father, physically and emotionally. He hits me without reason when he's angry and treats me like a sandbag. He even finds reasons to beat me up, like because I was drawing with a marker, eating candy, going to my friends house for dinner etc. I've never hated a person more than him in my life. My mom sees me me getting hit, but she just sits there. She doesn't do anything.

I never recovered from that trauma. I told my mom, I will never date, I will never get a boyfriend, and I will never marry. Just because its so rooted down in my mind that all men I see are like my father. Useless, cruel and chauvinistic.

But it made me a feminist at heart.

I am Riveted by this song. It often has me crying.

It Amazes me that a man not formally trained in psychology/psychotherapy/human relations, could slice right through - like a laser beam - to the truth of the situation he and his girlfriend were in. A girl's relationship with her father, and the effect he's had on her throughout her formative years, is a CRUCIAL factor in her development. A girl/woman will Forever be effected by her childhood experiences with her Dad. If he "abandoned" her, or consistently treated her badly in any way, chances are that she will (unconsciously or otherwise) be attracted to, and will tend to attract, boys/men who end up treating her much as her father did. Once she's in this scenario, she will inevitably try her best to make her same, old familiar story turn out with a HAPPY Ending this time, with her new "substitute Daddy".
Her efforts are usually in vain, as every time, her(new,current)story ends badly. Thus, she is Re-traumatized. In many cases she will "dance [this] dance" over and over, ever hopeful that it will end in success, "This time".

This story strikes Deep in the heart of the female psyche. It is far too common, and Waaayyyy too familiar to me, personally.

this is so true. My father left left when i was 5. I like this boy but I'm afraid of getting hurt. And doesn't understand why i won't be with him. This song makes me cry. God my father is a dead beat.

The message: Just be a good papa =). You can f*ck up kids and create emotional problems, problems that grow later with you in life. This song was not meant to be sexist. Father/daughter relationships are crucial in emotional development, just as mother/son relationships and abandoning or abusing your kid can leave some serious emotioanal scars (Trust me-I know this. I fall into the "abandonment" category), and obviously, the girl in this video was hurt much earlier in life.

It's so true. My dad left when I was 14 and I have had problems my whole life with love and relationships. In the song, the guy fell in love with a girl like me and it just couldn't work b/c she was so screwed up. I'm 40 now and my dad and I have only a "surface" relationship...where at one time I was such a "daddy's girl" as a little girl. Now my younger half-sister is his whole focus and world. It really stinks.

Somewhere else in these reviews there is someone who refers to Borderline Personality Disorder ...

I got out of a relationship with a Borderline woman. She was everything to me ... as in the song, "she was was my world". Her disorder left her a shattered and broken soul.
I actually cried everyday for her, and for the love she couldn't see me give her.
I eventually had to see a psychologist over the pain I felt, and the first assessment out of his mouth was "it’s got nothing to do with you" ... as though he had heard the song, but our meeting predated the song.

I listened to the song a few times, but I can't anymore. The memories of the pain and sorrow I felt are too deep.

Borderline is a terrible condition, and is more common than bipolar disorder and schizophrenia combined. Borderline probably account for 85% of all 'crazy girlfriend' experiences, much drug addiction, alcoholism, and vicious divorces. These people are not jerks, they are deeply ill and the destroy lives, their own and those who touch them.

Love them, but only from afar ... and for god's sake, fathers and mothers, be good to your daughters ... please.

June 5, 2008

all i see is my niece's face when i hear this beautiful song. Her father left her and her mother for another woman, after years of excessive adultry and drinking. Now she is cleaning up the mess he made. i love my niece and i can only hope she doesn't "love like he does."